Wednesday, April 14, 2010

HELP!!!!

Mr Caleb is 4. He has red hair just like his mama. 'nough said.

Shane and I are just about at our wits end with that child. His tantrums are uncontrollable, completely unprovoked, and wild. They often times last for over an hour. They include (but are not limited to): blood curdling screaming at the top of his lungs, kicking, punching, throwing things, clenching his fists, and uncontrollable crying.

Once he starts, we CAN NOT get him to stop. This morning he had a fit because he "didn't know how to put his shorts on." Even though he does it every day. When he got distracted by the TV, we turned it off in hopes that he would get his shorts on quicker and that made the fit worse. He then screamed at the top of his lungs for over an hour. We could not get him to calm down. Spanks don't work, time out makes the screaming worse, talking to doesn't work, yelling at doesn't work, NOTHING WORKS....His fits make my blood boil!

Tonight, he didn't want to eat supper (a nightly battle). I told him he didn't have to eat, but he had to sit with us (9 times out of 10 he ends up eating). He threw a fit and pushed his bowl across the table- HARD. I put him in time out, he threw a shoe at the TV. I went over, pulled his pants down and spanked him. He hit me. He also continued to scream for over an hour. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH HIM!

If you guys have any suggestions, please, PLEASE pass them on to me. Shane and I are so frustrated, and don't know what to do. It's only going to get worse if we don't get it taken care of now. HELP!!!

5 comments:

The Cox Family said...

Oh, you can watch Super Nanny too! She has good tips. I've watched it online at abc.com

chrissy Funk said...

Avry used to do the same thing. What I ended up doing and what seemed to work was telling him if he didn't stop he was getting a spanking, then of course for the first week or so I had to spank him EVERY TIME he started in, but right after I spanked him and he called down, I would tell him, "i dont like to spank you, but i have to because you are not suppose to act like that. it makes me soooo sad to have to spank you".
Now he knows that not only is he going to get a spanking but he makes mommy very very very sad. It seems to have worked. His tantrums are like waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay less than they were even 2 months ago.

Once you find something that might work, make sure you stick to it like crrraaaaazy.

Amanda said...

I know consistency is key. I don't mean to simply throw a book at you, but we've found the book "Love and Logic" by Fay and Cline to be extremely helpful.

Molly Alisa Photography said...

You are NOT alone!!! We are in the same boat and some days I just want to cry and never stop.


We need to have a sympathy dinner and console each other. :)

Katie Razor said...

The book "New Kid by Friday" by Kevin Lehman is one that my supervisor recommends to parents. Creating a sense of choices is helpful as kids his age are seeking to be independent. Also creating a sense of loss is also helpful because they feel the weight of their decision because they don't get to do something that they love. I'm not a parent so I can't say that I understand what it is like but I bet it is exhausting and discouraging at times. Your son sounds normal though if that helps at all ;)

 
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