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I've been following you a littl...Good for you!<br /><br />I've been following you a little bit - I found you through Team Ewan. I only hope I could respond to attacks as gracefully as you have.thegoodsmellerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06618897175647419998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557719621411312017.post-39586885259211864522010-11-03T00:05:05.836-04:002010-11-03T00:05:05.836-04:00You truly show the love of God in this post. <3...You truly show the love of God in this post. <3Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557719621411312017.post-25757737386112096682010-11-02T23:19:55.737-04:002010-11-02T23:19:55.737-04:00Jill
WOW what an amazing post!!!! many others ha...Jill <br /><br />WOW what an amazing post!!!! many others have already said you are truely an inspiration and you are.Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08830498086113066297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557719621411312017.post-71434397880510163942010-11-02T21:34:58.154-04:002010-11-02T21:34:58.154-04:00You are an amazingly forgiving person. I'm so...You are an amazingly forgiving person. I'm sorry for the loss of your son.areyoukiddingmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16107214079237461141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557719621411312017.post-22433087006510731252010-11-02T18:33:30.443-04:002010-11-02T18:33:30.443-04:00Jill,
You truly are amazing!
I found your site t...Jill,<br />You truly are amazing! <br /><br />I found your site through twitter via an Intactivist saying terrible things. I have followed your story since then and I have got to say that I am amazed at your strength. Your strength and faith dealing with the death of sweet Joshua itself is amazing, but to add on this incredible ridicule by strangers is nothing less than astounding!<br /><br />I have been wavering in my faith and commitment these last few years, and I find you a true inspiration!<br /><br />Thank you for this post.Little Miss "E"https://www.blogger.com/profile/02953577934236702476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557719621411312017.post-19433414947132205462010-11-01T17:07:06.855-04:002010-11-01T17:07:06.855-04:00Dear Jill,
I don't think anyone should try to...Dear Jill,<br /><br />I don't think anyone should try to convince you and Shane to file a lawsuit for medical malpractice, and I don't know anyone who has, against the doctors who violated crystal clear AAP guidelines by circumcising your very sick child. That decision is obviously up to you and Shane. Only you and Shane have the moral and legal right to decide such a very important matter. <br /><br />While opinions differ and everyone is entitled to our own opinions, facts are different. We are not entitled to our own facts. The question of whether Joshua's circumcision was contraindicated medical malpractice is a matter of fact. Even the AAP policy statement most accepting of circumcising healthy infants and children, the 1989 statement, clearly states that circumcising sick children is contraindicated: <br /><br />1989 AAP STATEMENT <br />CONTRAINDICATIONS, COMPLICATIONS, INFORMED CONSENT <br />“Circumcision is contraindicated in an unstable or sick infant.” <br /><br />The doctors who circumcised Joshua erred. That is the irreducible fact that we are all left with. Joshua suffered as a result, at a time when he didn't need any more suffering. I do not blame you or Shane at all. Far from it. You are the parents. It is the doctors who failed Joshua, failed you and Shane, Joshua's brother and sister, his broader families and the rest of us. The US medical profession has not taken responsibility in over 150 years of erroneously medicalized circumcising to see to it that the obvious medical error of subjecting sick babies and other sick children to circumcising gets corrected in US medical practice. <br /><br />So if the doctors won't or can't correct themselves in over a century and a half, and if parents of dead children won't or can't, understandably, severely traumatized as you are when your new baby or well-loved older child dies - Ryleigh Roman Bryan McWillis' parents in British Columbia came to the same conclusion you and Shane did; I know of NO parents of healthy or sick children who died after circumcision that have sued for medical malpractice - and if as claimed by some it's no one else's business, then who CAN correct this grievous medical error? Who WILL? The babies obviously can't defend themselves from it. Is this then a medical error that can NEVER BE CORRECTED? <br /><br />I find such a thought totally unacceptable. Children and their proper medical care are too important to leave this common error in US medical practice uncorrected. <br /><br />So what should be done about it? Where do we go from here? How is this tragic error ever to be corrected? By whom? When? <br /><br />Please understand when I say again, I have no criticism to make of you or Shane or any other parents in similar stressful circumstances. This is a long-term, ongoing failure of the medical profession and of the broader society, both of which I believe DO have the responsibility to hold medical doctors accountable for their medical errors. We DO have the responsibility to prevent those errors from continuing forever. We ARE our brother's keeper. Passing by on the other side of the road and pretending we have no obligation to them in this and other dangerous situations is not an option for Christians. I think Jesus made that clear to us two millennia ago.<br /><br />It is the facts about this that hurt so much and so many, but if we are ever to reduce the pain and damage we must stick with the facts, painful as they are, be guided by them and the Holy Spirit, and do our Christian duty to our brothers as the Lord guides us to, painful though it may be sometimes to do so. It took a lot of pain to get us into this situation. I don't think we're going to get out of it painlessly.<br /><br />God bless you and your family.Van Lewishttp://cirp.org/pages/cultural/lewis1/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557719621411312017.post-67936619064588948942010-11-01T14:29:49.320-04:002010-11-01T14:29:49.320-04:00Petrina- while I apprecaite you giving me informat...Petrina- while I apprecaite you giving me information, I would also like to tell you that my husband and I have absolutely no desire to file any sort of lawsuit against the doctors. <br /><br />I sat by Joshua's side for 51 days. I knew his doctors, I knew Joshua. We find no fault in Joshua's death. <br /><br /><br />The coroner signed off of Joshua's death. He did not feel the need to investigate. That tells me that cardiac arrest due to Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome is in fact the cause of death. I can appreciate that you think otherwise, but it's done. <br /><br />Please do not come to this site again to try to convince me to file a lawsuit. It's not going to happen.Jill https://www.blogger.com/profile/05480998926938144262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557719621411312017.post-71548918927482916762010-11-01T11:21:10.222-04:002010-11-01T11:21:10.222-04:00I think that what is so disturbing to people like ...I think that what is so disturbing to people like Van Lewis and many others is that the doctor who circumcised Joshua was not following the guidelines set down by the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP). In addition, this Catholic hospital is operating in violation of Catholic Catechism teaching on "Respect for bodily integrity" and New Testament Scriptures by allowing non-therapeutic circumcisions on their premises. <br /><br />By not the following AAP Guidelines, Joshua's doctor put him at increased risk from this unnecessary surgery. No medical association in the world today recommends infant circumcision, and it would be hard for any doctor to argue that this surgery was necessary.<br /><br />Other parents whose children have suffered from botched circumcisions and serious complications have brought lawsuits and won millions of dollars for medical malpractice. You also have strong grounds for a medical malpractice lawsuit, should you ever decide to bring one. A lawsuit won't bring Joshua back, but it might help prevent tragedies from happening to other children and parents in the future.<br /><br />Here is what the AAP has said, and why what happened was medical malpractice.<br /><br />1971 STATEMENT OF THE AAP<br /><br />“There are no valid medical indications for circumcision in the neonatal period.”<br /><br />1975 STATEMENT OF THE AAP<br />Pediatrics, Vol. 56 No. 4: Pages 610-611, October 1975.<br />Committee on Fetus and Newborn<br />Report of the Ad Hoc Task Force on Circumcision<br /><br />“The Committee on Fetus and Newborn of the American Academy of Pediatrics stated in 1971 that there are no valid medical indications for circumcision in the neonatal period. The present committee has undertaken a review of data to support arguments "pro" and "con" circumcision of the newborn, and finds no basis for changing this statement."<br /><br />CONTRAINDICATIONS TO CIRCUMCISION<br />“Prematurity, neonatal illness, any congenital anomaly (especially hypospadias), or bleeding problems are absolute contraindications to neonatal circumcision.”<br /><br />1977 STATEMENT OF THE AAP<br />“There are no medical indications for routine circumcisions, and the procedure cannot be considered an essential component of health care. If an infant is circumcised, the procedure must be delayed until the infant is at least 24 hours old and stable, without bleeding tendency or any other illness.”<br /><br />1989 AAP STATEMENT<br />CONTRAINDICATIONS, COMPLICATIONS, INFORMED CONSENT<br />“Circumcision is contraindicated in an unstable or sick infant.” <br /><br />1999 STATEMENT of the AMERICAN ACADEMY OF PEDIATRICS Task Force on Circumcision<br />PEDIATRICS, Volume 103, Number 3, Pages 686-693, March 1, 1999.<br /><br />“If circumcision is performed in the newborn period, it should only be done on infants who are stable and healthy.”<br /><br />PetrinaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557719621411312017.post-35828302272891659712010-11-01T10:27:53.299-04:002010-11-01T10:27:53.299-04:00Thank you, Jill, for your kind response and for be...Thank you, Jill, for your kind response and for being so open to the world with your life, including the very painful parts. I think you, like the rest of us, God's children all, have much to give and much to receive. That's the way He made us. It must be what He wants. Let's keep giving and receiving.Van Lewishttp://cirp.org/pages/cultural/lewis1/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557719621411312017.post-59858785641268923072010-11-01T09:46:58.390-04:002010-11-01T09:46:58.390-04:00Van Lewis-
You are right. We are called to be he...Van Lewis- <br /><br />You are right. We are called to be here for each other. <br /><br />I apprecaite your (differing) opinion and I apprecaite that you were kind and gentle about it.Jill https://www.blogger.com/profile/05480998926938144262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557719621411312017.post-40971407642320814202010-11-01T01:39:54.256-04:002010-11-01T01:39:54.256-04:00Let us learn to treasure every member God has give...Let us learn to treasure every member God has given, every member of our own bodies and of the body of Christ, for<br /> <br />"God arranged the organs in the body, each one of them, as he chose."<br /> <br />Are we going to correct God by changing who and what he gave? By eliminating one member or another - of our bodies or Christ's - as WE choose?<br /> <br />Would trying to correct God be blasphemy? Heresy? Sin?<br /> <br />Is this a cruel post? It isn't intended to be. It is intended to be a gentle and loving post, that shows concern, forgiveness, and compassion for all of us, and for the good future of all members everywhere. Christ loves every member. So should we, as He does. That's what our presents and futures are for. Would we have it any other way? <br /> <br />What are we here for? <br /> <br />I think we are here for each other.Van Lewishttp://cirp.org/pages/cultural/lewis1/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557719621411312017.post-45662807588021935012010-11-01T01:38:23.058-04:002010-11-01T01:38:23.058-04:00"devilneedle said... If you wouldn't mind..."devilneedle said... If you wouldn't mind clarifying for this newcomer, why would people harass you about circumcising your son? If the baby had a preexisting heart condition diagnosed before birth then what in the world does circumcision have to do with it...?"<br /> <br />My own view, speaking as a fellow Christian, is that Joshua's doctors failed him and the rest of us by not knowing or not sharing that unnecessarily circumcising sick children is contraindicated medical malpractice. Unnecessarily adding the stresses of unnecessary surgery to already stressed, sick children who are struggling to survive is a medical error, a tragic one in this and every case, and one that the U.S. medical profession needs to correct and that we in the public need to help them correct so that sick children can struggle for their lives without having to endure unnecessary stresses imposed in error by doctors. Sick children are stressed enough already without adults adding more unnecessary stresses. This really isn't complicated or hard to understand. Forgiveness for past mistakes and sins is called for all around, as always. God does. Who are we not to? What is at issue now is the future. What can we learn from the past? Can we learn to see it clearly, even when it contains so much pain? Can we learn to keep unnecessary stresses away from sick children, and sick adults? And maybe even from healthy children and healthy adults? Can we learn to care for each other kindly and gently? Can we learn to respect the bodies God gave us, just as God gave them to us, especially when they are normal? Can we learn such respect from Saint Paul, who wrote in 1 Corinthians 12: 13-28,<br /> <br />"For just as the body is one and has many members, and all the members of the body, though many, are one body, so it is with Christ. For by one Spirit we were all baptized into one body--Jews or Greeks, slaves or free--and all were made to drink of one Spirit. For the body does not consist of one member but of many. If the foot should say, 'Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,' that would not make it any less a part of the body. And if the ear should say, 'Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,' that would not make it any less a part of the body. If the whole body were an eye, where would be the hearing? If the whole body were an ear, where would be the sense of smell? But as it is, God arranged the organs in the body, each one of them, as he chose. If all were a single organ, where would the body be? As it is, there are many parts, yet one body. The eye cannot say to the hand, 'I have no need of you,' nor again the head to the feet, 'I have no need of you.' On the contrary, the parts of the body which seem to be weaker are indispensable, and those parts of the body which we think less honorable we invest with the greater honor, and our unpresentable parts are treated with greater modesty, which our more presentable parts do not require. But God has so composed the body, giving the greater honor to the inferior part, that there may be no discord in the body, but that the members may have the same care for one another. If one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored, all rejoice together. Now you are the body of Christ and individually members of it."Van Lewishttp://cirp.org/pages/cultural/lewis1/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557719621411312017.post-48847955235298341392010-10-31T18:39:16.819-04:002010-10-31T18:39:16.819-04:00I am cheering for you!!!! GO GIRL!!!! You are a ...I am cheering for you!!!! GO GIRL!!!! You are a woman of God. SO proud of you.<br /><br />Kari, Chehalis, WAKarihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04954414976037468873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557719621411312017.post-54467022206160274932010-10-31T15:03:50.493-04:002010-10-31T15:03:50.493-04:00Beautifully said<3Beautifully said<3Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557719621411312017.post-46038471029976451402010-10-30T22:46:16.283-04:002010-10-30T22:46:16.283-04:00Amazing post!
RainyAmazing post! <br /><br />Rainyrainynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557719621411312017.post-21169942901662758092010-10-30T13:10:29.653-04:002010-10-30T13:10:29.653-04:00You are an amazing woman. I am so sorry for your l...You are an amazing woman. I am so sorry for your loss. Please don't let the hateful, terrible actions of others cause you more pain. They are stuck in their own world and reality. You are so brave and Joshua is lucky to have you as his mom.<br /><br />I just can't imagine what you're going through -- there are no words.<br /><br />*hugs* and prayers to you and your family :)Jennhttp://jenndize.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557719621411312017.post-21996301174745848002010-10-30T01:19:03.233-04:002010-10-30T01:19:03.233-04:00More people need to set what you've done as an...More people need to set what you've done as an example. Bravo!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557719621411312017.post-89806360179225426682010-10-29T23:45:02.514-04:002010-10-29T23:45:02.514-04:00Many, many years ago my brother died of SIDS. It w...Many, many years ago my brother died of SIDS. It was before people understood what SIDS was, how it was caused (let's face it they are still working on that one)and why. The night my brother died my mother was handcuffed and walked out to the waiting police car for murdering her child. The neighbors saw,the town heard and within weeks, my father had lost his job and my parents were forced to move.<br />What the rest of the world didn't know was that the death was ruled medical and my parents were left alone to suffer in a perceived guilt in a place far away from their son - their lives.<br /><br />Why I am sharing this story is to reiterate that people make comments and pass judgment on what they know nothing about. What they fail to understand is the trauma they leave in their wake. How gracious of you to leave them in their mire and silence the reaction they seek in lashing out!!<br /> <br />I have only One to answer my actions to, and He is totally knowledgeable of all my acts; pure in intent and selfish. Judge not, lest thou be judged. I will leave the judgment of others up to Him and ask that people show me the same respect.<br /><br />Light and Hope to you Jill!<br /><br />Douglas' MomAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557719621411312017.post-49453867007848475132010-10-29T22:43:18.533-04:002010-10-29T22:43:18.533-04:00You are amazing Jill!You are amazing Jill!Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13083569632504031093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557719621411312017.post-70220123262072140142010-10-29T19:56:12.105-04:002010-10-29T19:56:12.105-04:00You are a very strong, wonderful woman and mother....You are a very strong, wonderful woman and mother. I have a lot of respect for you. Thinking of you and your family.Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16080352553700502661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557719621411312017.post-37384052122485449872010-10-29T15:16:25.977-04:002010-10-29T15:16:25.977-04:00I can learn so much from you. Thank you for the be...I can learn so much from you. Thank you for the beautiful insight. I hope I can apply even an ounce of your Christian living to my own life, and make Jesus proud.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02930533303856458374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557719621411312017.post-88936653421376210272010-10-29T15:02:28.836-04:002010-10-29T15:02:28.836-04:00Hi, I'm a new reader to your blog and found yo...Hi, I'm a new reader to your blog and found you via a FF on Twitter. Let me begin by saying that as a mother myself, my heart goes out to you and your family. I cannot even begin to imagine the pain your soul must feel over the loss of your precious baby boy! <br /><br />I'm rather confused over the comments that some people have left. If you wouldn't mind clarifying for this newcomer, why would people harass you about circumcising your son? If the baby had a preexisting heart condition diagnosed before birth then what in the world does circumcision have to do with it and why are you being attacked for this choice?<br /><br />I wish that EVERYONE could learn to listen to others and respect even that which they don't necessarily agree with. The world would be a much more peaceful place if we did. I don't know why people feel compelled to harass you and your family but from what I've already read you seem like such a strong woman that I know you'll rise above them.devilneedlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14533399583119170605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557719621411312017.post-3370402735268478202010-10-29T14:51:06.740-04:002010-10-29T14:51:06.740-04:00You're incredible.You're incredible.eggandcheesesandwichhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09284248074077252994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557719621411312017.post-33628613592445089902010-10-29T14:42:26.499-04:002010-10-29T14:42:26.499-04:00Errr. above.. wherever my post appears lol :PErrr. above.. wherever my post appears lol :PJennifernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557719621411312017.post-1779912007860173622010-10-29T14:41:35.439-04:002010-10-29T14:41:35.439-04:00I second what everyone below me has said.. you rea...I second what everyone below me has said.. you really are something specialJennifernoreply@blogger.com