tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557719621411312017.post1159363001866382289..comments2024-01-11T16:41:01.570-05:00Comments on The Real Life of a Red Head: Letting Go- part 2Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557719621411312017.post-68938937688954701862011-09-10T18:14:29.105-04:002011-09-10T18:14:29.105-04:00Great post. Love you. (((hugs)))Great post. Love you. (((hugs)))The Cox Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03248408214510179733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557719621411312017.post-41234064290683248972011-09-09T11:10:03.272-04:002011-09-09T11:10:03.272-04:00I came across your blog today. I don't have a ...I came across your blog today. I don't have a chd baby but I have a CDH baby. Although I have not lost my son and can not even imagine the pain it brings. I have alot of the same feelings as you. We spent 6 months in the hospital getting our son healthy enough to come home. He is doing so wonderful for all he has been through. I feel so guilty having these feelings. We have been through a sick child, losing our home, moving away from family, financial hardships and some days it feels as though there is more to come. Joseph is headed into surgery on the 20 just 5 days after his first bday. It will be his 6th. I'm terrified. Sorry I'm rambling. I pray that your burden will get easier to bare, I have lost loved ones and watched a dear friend lose her son, and know that with time the burden gets easier. It doesn't leave but it gets easier. You will be in my prayers as well as your family.JoJo's Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16080624287987239461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557719621411312017.post-58550702355416347552011-09-08T16:07:25.192-04:002011-09-08T16:07:25.192-04:00First, let me make clear that I have not lost a ch...First, let me make clear that I have not lost a child; though I did lose my nephew. I would never presume to think I even have an inkling of what a parent who loses a child goes through. That being said (& I hope I make some sense):<br />Thank you for being so honest...what you shared yesterday and today is something that needs to be heard by so many. I understand your feelings about verse in Jer. And the confusion of how such horror can happen even when God is close by. The questions of how some are healed while others are not...<br />The anger that comes, directed at God~he can handle. The feeling of abandonment~he understands though he is near. The confusion...the torment...the suffering...the grief...he feels along with us. Of course then, comes the question of wishing that rather than being alongside us in this place, why hadn't he rescued us from it instead?<br />I am impressed that you were able to put into words this choice you've made...I had a hard time doing so. It's just that I knew if I turned away from God, it would be even worse. If I tried to make it on my own and comfort myself, I would fail and the darkness would be worse. Years ago I the verses from Isaiah 50 (10-11) suddenly seared themselves in my heart and broke through the darkness I was in at the time when I realized I was trying to light my darkness without God. Around that same time, I realized that though I had clung to Psalm 23, verse 4, it hadn't dawned on me that for there to be a shadow, somewhere there must be light...I only needed to find the true Source.<br />The time following my nephew's death, the darkness was deeper...and then somehow, those words broke through. And I knew I couldn't not believe in God...couldn't not trust him. <br />It's such a relief, really, isn't it, when you come to that place? Even if those around you aren't there yet...or you can't quite put it into words... There is a peace the floods in~not necessarily replacing the grief, sorrow, exhaustion...but joining it.<br />Many Christians that have not known this struggle or these depths of grief may have an easier time with their faith, with trusting God; they may (unconsiously) judge those in the midst of this battle rather than quietly supporting them through the darkness of it all. But then, perhaps, too they miss out on the soul-searing/shattering depths that is only known by those who have walked through the fires in the dark of night with God.<br />You and yours remain in my prayers. <br />~MaryAuntie Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06610977491641901739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557719621411312017.post-35353987231676972862011-09-08T10:40:45.245-04:002011-09-08T10:40:45.245-04:00Letting go and grabbing onto God was the most diff...Letting go and grabbing onto God was the most difficult thing for me to do as well. I was scared that somehow, letting go of the grief would mean I didn't love my son, or that I'd forget him, or, or, or. It just isn't true.<br /><br />I'm so thankful and glad for you, that you're taking this step. I'll be keeping you in my prayers a bit more. That you feel God's peace and love sustaining you with grace. <br /><br />Much love my friend!<br /><br />PeggyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2557719621411312017.post-39841504146599939872011-09-08T08:26:27.920-04:002011-09-08T08:26:27.920-04:00Surrender and Claim your life back!Surrender and Claim your life back!A Daft Scots Lasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01922985143036647579noreply@blogger.com